14 Ways to Show Love for Your Child This Valentine's Day and Every Day
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The
following are Valentine's Day tips from the American Academy of
Pediatrics (AAP). Please feel free to excerpt these tips or use them in
their entirety for any print or broadcast story with appropriate
attribution of source. Click here for the Spanish Version.
Use
plenty of positive words with your child. Try to avoid using
sarcasm. Children often don’t understand it, and if they do, it
creates a negative interaction.
Respond
promptly and lovingly to your child's physical and emotional
needs and banish put-downs from your parenting vocabulary. Be
available to listen to your child when he/she wants to talk with
you even if it’s an inconvenient time.
Make
an extra effort to set a good example at home and in public. Use
words like "I'm sorry," "please," and "thank you."
When
your child is angry, argumentative or in a bad mood, give him a
hug, cuddle, pat, secret sign or other gesture of affection he
favors and then talk with him about it when he’s feeling better.
Use
non-violent forms of discipline. Parents should institute both
rewards and restrictions many years before adolescence to help
prevent trouble during the teenage years. Allowing children of any
age to constantly break important rules without being disciplined
only encourages more rule violations.
Make
plans to spend time alone with your young child or teen doing
something she enjoys. Send a Valentine’s Day card to your older
child or teen. Make Valentine’s Day cards together with your
preschool or younger school age child.
Mark
family game nights on your calendar so the entire family can be
together. Put a different family member's name under each date,
and have that person choose which game will be played that
evening.
Owning
a pet can make children, especially those with chronic illnesses
and disabilities, feel better by stimulating physical activity,
enhancing their overall attitude, and offering constant
companionship.
One
of the best ways to familiarize your child with good food choices
is to encourage him to cook with you. Let him get involved in the
entire process, from planning the menus to shopping for
ingredients to the actual food preparation and its serving. It is
wonderful when families eat together as much as possible. Good
food, good conversations.
As
your child grows up, she'll spend most of her time developing and
refining a variety of skills and abilities in all areas of her
life. You should help her as much as possible by encouraging her
and providing the equipment and instruction she needs. Start
reading to your child beginning at six months. Avoid TV in the
first two years, monitor and watch TV with your older children and use
TV time as conversation time with your children. Limit computer and
video games.
Your
child's health depends significantly on the care and guidance you
offer during his early years. By taking your child to the doctor
regularly for preventive health care visits, keeping him safe from
accidents, providing a nutritious diet, and encouraging exercise
throughout childhood, you help protect and strengthen his body.
Help your child foster positive relationships with friends, siblings and members of the community.
One
of your most important gifts as a parent is to help your child
develop self-esteem. Your child needs your steady support and
encouragement to discover his strengths. He needs you to believe
in him as he learns to believe in himself. Loving him, spending
time with him, listening to him and praising his accomplishments
are all part of this process.
Don't forget to say, "I love you" to children of all ages!
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